• Nicole Lovald

Overcoming the F Words

Updated: Jan 28, 2019

Now that I have your attention, let’s talk about the F word. Or, words, to be exact. 

I’m not talking about the F word you are likely thinking of - get your mind out of the gutter. I’m talking about the stress induced F words that keep us in a state of anxiety and depression. The F words that keep us on high alert so that we can’t calm our bodies or minds.

The F words I’m speaking of are: Fight, Flight, or Freeze. Maybe you’ve heard of them. It’s possible your yoga teacher, therapist, or a well-intended friend have mentioned them to you. 

These three words explain what happens to us when we are stressed-out, overwhelmed, or angry. We experience them when we are anxious and feel our heart racing in our chest. We also experience them when we are sad, lonely, or lethargic and can’t seem to get off the couch.

I’m not trying to blame or shame anyone who lives in the fight, flight, or freeze states. On the contrary, I understand it’s our bodies natural way of responding when we are feeling em

otions that feel threatening. We are programmed to protect ourselves by either fighting, fleeing, or freezing. Our bodies purposefully respond in this way as a life-saving measure.

Think about it this way - you are out on a hike in the woods and you come face-to-face with a bear. What is your natural response in order to protect yourself? Some of us might go into full-on fight mode and begin to kick and scream. Others might take off in the opposite direction as fast as our legs will take us. The rest of us will totally freeze and not be able to move our limbs to respond at all.

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