• Nicole Lovald

Stop and Have an AHA Moment

We’ve all said or done things in the heat of the moment that we later regret. Whether it’s yelling at our partner or kids, getting escalated during a meeting, or snapping at our aging parents; we’ve all been there. It’s not a fun place to be.


When it’s happening we feel angry and frustrated. We might even become physically heated (hence the saying hot-tempered) and red in the face. Our breathing becomes fast and shallow. We might feel as if we aren’t in control and say things we would never say otherwise.


So if we know that we do this and feel bad about it after the fact: Why does it keep happening?


Because it’s our bodies natural way of reacting to stress. 


When we experience stress our body naturally responds in one of three ways: 

We become angry and want to fight our way out of the situation

We want to run away from what is happening as quickly as we can

Our bodies freeze and we don’t know how to respond or can’t respond


The brain scientists out there call this our fight, flight, or freeze response.


It’s our NATURAL way of responding to stress. Yes, I know I’m yelling at you but I want you to understand that there’s